{"id":31052,"date":"2026-09-29T06:28:35","date_gmt":"2026-09-29T10:28:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/how-do-you-write-a-touching-and-informative-obituary\/"},"modified":"2026-09-29T06:28:35","modified_gmt":"2026-09-29T10:28:35","slug":"how-do-you-write-a-touching-and-informative-obituary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/how-do-you-write-a-touching-and-informative-obituary\/","title":{"rendered":"How do you write a touching and informative obituary?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-1 fusion-flex-container has-pattern-background has-mask-background nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start fusion-flex-content-wrap\" style=\"max-width:1216.8px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-0 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\" style=\"--awb-bg-size:cover;--awb-width-large:100%;--awb-margin-top-large:0px;--awb-spacing-right-large:1.92%;--awb-margin-bottom-large:20px;--awb-spacing-left-large:1.92%;--awb-width-medium:100%;--awb-order-medium:0;--awb-spacing-right-medium:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-medium:1.92%;--awb-width-small:100%;--awb-order-small:0;--awb-spacing-right-small:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-small:1.92%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\"><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-1\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#f2f2ef;\"><p>Writing an obituary for someone you love is never an entirely routine task. You have to find the right words while your emotions are still running high\u2014sometimes even before you\u2019ve fully realized what has just happened.<\/p>\n<p>And one question comes up often: <strong>What do you write in an obituary?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It isn\u2019t necessary to recount an entire life. An obituary can simply announce the passing, provide useful information to loved ones, and, in a few heartfelt sentences, offer a glimpse of the person behind the name.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s the key: to provide clear <strong>information while paying a fitting tribute.<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-1 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:36;line-height:1.28;\">What is the purpose of an obituary?<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-2\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;\"><p>An obituary generally serves two purposes.<\/p>\n<p>First, it serves to inform extended family, friends, former colleagues, and members of the community of the death. It can also include details about the viewing, funeral, memorial service, or a private celebration.<\/p>\n<p>But a review is also a small space for memories.<\/p>\n<p>A few lines can evoke a passion, a quality deeply associated with the person, their devotion to their family, or even their unique way of caring for others.<\/p>\n<p>So it\u2019s not just about announcing a death. It\u2019s about gently beginning to share a memory.<\/p>\n<p>Families and loved ones can also view the<a href=\"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/obituaries\/\"> obituaries published by the Marie-Soleil Phaneuf Funeral Home<\/a> to find information about memorial services and ceremonies.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-2 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:36;line-height:1.28;\">An obituary is not an official document<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-3\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;\"><p>Making this distinction can prevent a great deal of confusion.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-3 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:36;line-height:1.28;\"><p>An obituary published by a funeral home or elsewhere is different from the official documents related to a death. In Quebec, the death certificate and the declaration of death are used, among other things, to register the death in the civil registry. The death certificate and a copy of the death record are then used for various administrative and probate procedures.<\/p>\n<p>The obituary, on the other hand, serves primarily a public, informative, and commemorative purpose.<\/p>\n<p>Essential elements to include in an obituary<\/p><\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-4\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;\"><p>When it comes time to write, one question often comes up: What should you include in an obituary so you don\u2019t leave out anything important?<\/p>\n<p>There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Each family can choose what information they wish to make public and tailor the text to their specific circumstances. That said, there are certain elements that generally help create an obituary that is comprehensive, clear, and helpful to loved ones:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>The full name of the deceased,<\/strong> including her maiden name, if applicable.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Dates of birth and death<\/strong>, as well as the place of death if the family wishes to specify it.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Place of residence<\/strong>, such as the city or neighborhood, especially when it helps people recognize the person.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Family members and loved ones<\/strong>: spouse, children, grandchildren, parents, brothers and sisters, as well as any other people the family wishes to name.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Details of the viewing and service<\/strong>: date, time, and location of the visitation, funeral, or memorial service. If the family prefers to keep this time private, this can simply be noted.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Memorial donations<\/strong>, if desired. For example, the family may ask loved ones to make a donation to a foundation or organization that held special meaning for the deceased, particularly in lieu of flowers.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It\u2019s also worth keeping one small precaution in mind: an obituary is public. Therefore, there\u2019s no need to include every detail or provide personal information that doesn\u2019t add anything to the tribute.<br \/>Once you\u2019ve gathered this information, the hardest part sometimes begins: finding the few words that will help people recognize the person behind the dates and names. And that\u2019s precisely where an obituary can become much more than just a simple announcement.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-4 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:36;line-height:1.28;\">Talk about the person, not just their background<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-5\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;\"><p>Instead of just listing dates and events, ask yourself:<\/p>\n<p><strong>What will people spontaneously remember about her?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Maybe it was the way he welcomed everyone to his table. His love of gardening. His endless card games. His laugh, which you could recognize anywhere. His Sundays spent at the cabin, or his knack for calling at just the right moment, just to see how you were doing.<\/p>\n<p>These small details may sometimes seem trivial. Yet they are often what make a tribute truly heartfelt.<\/p>\n<p>Instead of just writing:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMichel was a generous man.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>One could write:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cMichel always had one more seat at his table and rarely found a good reason to let anyone leave empty-handed.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>You immediately get a better sense of who he was.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-5 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:36;line-height:1.28;\">Mention his or her passions and what mattered to him or her<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-6\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;\"><p>A job you love, volunteer work, music, fishing, travel, grandchildren, cooking, or simply the joy of bringing the family together\u2026<br \/>Not everything has to be spectacular to be worth sharing.<br \/>It\u2019s often the simplest things that bring back memories: a song, a recipe made every Christmas, a phrase that\u2019s been repeated for as long as anyone can remember, a place where the family loved to gather.<br \/>A heartfelt obituary reflects the person it honors. That\u2019s what matters.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><div class=\"fusion-fullwidth fullwidth-box fusion-builder-row-2 fusion-flex-container has-pattern-background has-mask-background nonhundred-percent-fullwidth non-hundred-percent-height-scrolling\" style=\"--awb-border-radius-top-left:0px;--awb-border-radius-top-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-right:0px;--awb-border-radius-bottom-left:0px;--awb-flex-wrap:wrap;\" ><div class=\"fusion-builder-row fusion-row fusion-flex-align-items-flex-start fusion-flex-content-wrap\" style=\"max-width:1216.8px;margin-left: calc(-4% \/ 2 );margin-right: calc(-4% \/ 2 );\"><div class=\"fusion-layout-column fusion_builder_column fusion-builder-column-1 fusion_builder_column_1_1 1_1 fusion-flex-column\" style=\"--awb-padding-top:20px;--awb-padding-right:20px;--awb-padding-bottom:20px;--awb-bg-size:cover;--awb-width-large:100%;--awb-margin-top-large:0px;--awb-spacing-right-large:1.92%;--awb-margin-bottom-large:100px;--awb-spacing-left-large:2.208%;--awb-width-medium:100%;--awb-order-medium:0;--awb-spacing-right-medium:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-medium:1.92%;--awb-width-small:100%;--awb-order-small:0;--awb-spacing-right-small:1.92%;--awb-spacing-left-small:1.92%;\"><div class=\"fusion-column-wrapper fusion-column-has-shadow fusion-flex-justify-content-flex-start fusion-content-layout-column\"><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-6 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;--fontSize:36;line-height:1.28;\">What tone should you use when writing an obituary?<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-7\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#ffffff;\"><p>There is no such thing as the perfect tone.<\/p>\n<p>Some families prefer a simple, traditional text. Others want something warmer and more personal. A touch of humor can even be appropriate when it truly reflects the personality of the deceased.<\/p>\n<p>Sincerity remains the best guide.<\/p>\n<p>Reread the text and ask yourself a very simple question:<\/p>\n<p><strong>\u201cDoes that sound like him?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Si la r\u00e9ponse est oui, vous \u00eates probablement sur la bonne voie.<\/p>\n<p>A short quote, a phrase she often used, or a few meaningful words can also serve as a gentle conclusion to the tribute. However, it\u2019s best to choose a personal quote or a short passage whose source you know.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-7 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-text-color:var(--awb-color1);--awb-margin-bottom:20px;--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;--awb-font-size:30px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;font-size:1em;--fontSize:30;line-height:1.28;\">Choose a photo that brings back a fond memory<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-8\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#fffcfc;\"><p>A photograph often accompanies the first words that loved ones will read.<br \/>\nYou don\u2019t have to choose a formal photograph. A natural, bright image that truly captures the person\u2019s essence can be much more evocative.<br \/>\nA familiar smile. A look that everyone recognizes.<br \/>\nSometimes, that\u2019s enough.<br \/>\nThis same thoughtfulness can carry over into the ceremony. Photographs, meaningful music, a few mementos, or personalized <a href=\"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/our-services\/commemorative-items\/\">commemorative items<\/a>can help create a tribute that truly reflects the person who has passed away.<br \/>\nThe idea isn\u2019t to do more. Rather, it\u2019s about choosing what matters most to your family.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-8 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-text-color:var(--awb-color1);--awb-margin-bottom:20px;--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;--awb-font-size:30px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;font-size:1em;--fontSize:30;line-height:1.28;\">Common Mistakes to Avoid<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-9\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#fffcfc;\"><p>In the days following a death, many decisions must be made quickly. As a result, it\u2019s easy to make a mistake or overlook something.<\/p>\n<p>Before publishing, take a few minutes to check the names, dates, spelling, and the time and location of the scheduled meetings.<\/p>\n<p>Also, make sure that the people mentioned are comfortable with the information being made public.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s also best to avoid:<\/p>\n<p>publishing too quickly without having important information proofread;<\/p>\n<p>provide unnecessary personal details;<\/p>\n<p>to feel compelled to follow a rigid model;<\/p>\n<p>to try to tell the story of an entire life in just a few lines;<\/p>\n<p>to be absolutely determined to find the \u201cperfect\u201d words.<\/p>\n<p>A simple, heartfelt obituary is better than a complicated one that doesn&#8217;t reflect either the deceased or their family.<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"fusion-title title fusion-title-9 sep-underline sep-solid fusion-title-text fusion-title-size-two\" style=\"--awb-text-color:var(--awb-color1);--awb-margin-bottom:20px;--awb-margin-top-small:10px;--awb-margin-right-small:0px;--awb-margin-bottom-small:10px;--awb-margin-left-small:0px;--awb-font-size:30px;\"><h2 class=\"fusion-title-heading title-heading-left fusion-responsive-typography-calculated\" style=\"margin:0;font-size:1em;--fontSize:30;line-height:1.28;\">You don&#8217;t have to figure out what to say on your own<\/h2><\/div><div class=\"fusion-text fusion-text-10\" style=\"--awb-text-color:#fffcfc;\"><p>Sometimes a family knows exactly how it feels\u2026 but can\u2019t quite put it into words.<\/p>\n<p>That&#8217;s completely understandable.<\/p>\n<p>At the Marie-Soleil Phaneuf Funeral Home, we can assist you in gathering the necessary information, finding respectful wording, and preparing an obituary that truly reflects the person you wish to honor.<\/p>\n<p>You can come in with a few notes, scattered memories, a list of names\u2014or simply tell us about the person.<\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;ll take the time to work with you.<\/p>\n<p>PBecause, deep down, a beautiful obituary doesn\u2019t need to tell the whole story. Above all, it should allow those who knew this person to recognize them\u2014even if only for a moment\u2014between the lines.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cBecause every life deserves a final tribute filled with tenderness and respect, we are here to support you.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":31047,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[151,166],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31052","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mourning","category-death"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31052","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31052"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31052\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":31054,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31052\/revisions\/31054"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31047"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31052"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31052"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/residencemariesoleilphaneuf.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31052"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}